She has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential and help them understand and decode their child’s behavior. She is a TEDx Speaker and has been featured on the OWN Network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, she inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they lead, work, play, and parent. Let's welcome the creator of the Mom Is In Control Podcast: Heather Chauvin!
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If you've ever questioned whether you're doing enough as a parent, or if you're the best parent you could be… this episode is for you!
Heather describes the concepts behind Energetic Time Management. Basically, you plan your day around the feelings you want to experience. First, you identify how you want to feel – and then you ensure that you're daily activities are ensuring that you feel that way throughout the day consistently.
One of Heather's major vices is her cell phone. She knows that if her cell is with her all of the time, she will use it more than she'd like to. So she sets strict boundaries and often leaves her cell at home when she's spending time with her family. She uses apps like Voxer or WhatsApp, and does not allow her clients to text her – and on top of that, she sets the expectation that she checks the apps twice per day – once in the morning and once in the afternoon.
Heather discusses her diagnosis with Stage 4 Cancer and how that impacted her outlook on life, parenting, her business, and the importance she placed on taking care of herself. She credits Danielle LaPorte for some of the ideas that have contributed to her belief systems.
After setting your big goal – ask yourself why you want to hit that goal – what are the feelings you're chasing? Those are the guides of energetic time management.
Heather offers a shift in perspective around parenting – instead of raising a child, we're co-creating a life with a child. She calls parenting “personal growth on steroids” and she recommends learning new skills together at the same time.
Heather has also identified foods and exercise that help her change the way she shows up in her everyday life.
Heather helps parents with getting their kids to listen to them – there are a few things that we need to know. First, the behavior of our children is a language. So, when we want to get our kids to listen to us we need to keep that in mind. Then, we need to understand the 3 “zones” of emotion with our kids. Green is a baseline, when they are calm. Red is when they are in full meltdown mode, and yellow is that transition period in between.
Heather makes a lot of references to Byron Katie, who challenges us to question the stories that we tell ourselves… the stories that effect the way that we show up in our lives and interact with others. She uses the example of “my child is not listening to me” to illustrate this.
We also explore developing a level of mutual respect between parent and child that maintains the authority of the parent, while instilling confidence in the child that they can go to the parent with even the most serious concerns. As our kids get older, it's important to me that my children feel comfortable coming to me with even their biggest and toughest problems, and I know that we need to have that level of trust and understanding to get there.
Meet Heather Chauvin
Heather Chauvin BSW has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential and help them understand and decode their child’s behavior.
Heather is a TEDx Speaker, and the creator of the Mom Is In Control Podcast. She has been featured on the OWN Network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others.
With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they lead, work, play, and parent.
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